I just want to make a brief point...
Yesterday I was watching Oprah and Will Smith was on there and he was talking about Obama being elected president and how much it meant to him and he related it to his relationship with his wife Jada. He talked about how the shape of our lives or how humanity has changed now that we have our first black president elect. And, he was saying how important it is for everything in his life to have purpose and how beyond the fact that he and Jada love each other, the two of them together and their marriage is one of purpose. He was talking to Oprah about how he doesn't want to waste anyone's time and he doesn't want anyone wasting his.
I was really moved by what he said and I am in total agreement. This kind of goes along with my previous Sam and the City from a couple of days ago when I was talking about all the things people sacrifice just to be with someone even if it isn't the right someone. WHAT A WASTE OF TIME! I thought about one of the most beautiful and intelligent people I know who is dating someone who is...Frankly, a bum. I thought about the time when I felt so bad about myself that I wasted my time dating someone who didn't have a job and who constantly asked me for money and I would give it to him. WHAT A WASTE OF TIME! (By the way, thank you Marcus B. for your comment about how men also can date women who hurt them or who aren't necessarily good for them. I appreciate you sharing that with me and you are so right and I think that men shouldn't waste their time either). I believe that everybody, or most people, deserve to be happy and regardless of your gender you should allow yourself the opportunity to be just that. Sometimes you might have to wait for that relationship with purpose. But, it's better than wasting time in a relationship that doesn't have one.
I really felt where Will Smith was coming from and it really touched me because I've seen so many people sacrifice so much for dead-end relationships. Today, a girl shared with me that she has been really stressed out about her relationship with her boyfriend. Now, she has the dream of leaving her current job and starting her own business. But, she hasn't had the energy to devote to this dream because she has been so consumed with her relationship. And, don't get me wrong, relationships aren't perfect and they come with stress at times. I know this. But, when you are sacrificing your dreams for it, can it be one with purpose? Shouldn't it be a relationship that is nurturing and gives you the support to chase your dreams rather than put them aside or forget about them?
Cheers to the people (men and women) who want to do better and feel the change in the air and want to do something about it!