You asked for it, so I am going to keep it. Sam and the City is here stay. So, I wanted to share with you conversation I was having with one of my friends on our way to a Pistons game yesterday.
We were talking about how complicated people make relationships and how simple they are. It's not rocket science. It's like this, YOU EITHER WANT SOMEONE OR YOU DON'T, and if you don't then don't waste their time or yours. I believe when you really know who you are and what you want, you really can tell in about 90 days whether someone is worth investing time and energy into. It's kind of like starting a new job. After the 90 day assessment the employer doesn't say, "You're kind of okay, so I think we'll let you stick around for a while." And, its not like you say, "Well, the job sucks, it's not what I am looking for, but I will keep it anyway." No, you keep it moving. Or, if it works out for the both of you, you keep working at it and working at it. Now, I am not saying after 90 days run to the chapel. I believe in long courtships because it takes a long time to really get to know the depths of someone. For example, with friends, it takes years to build trust and know the inner workings of someone. Long time.
I really don't know... to tell you the truth. I just don't think dating should be that complicated. I wish I could write more. But, I don't think I have the energy. The only thing I know is that it aint rocket science and when the right one comes along, you'll know it. I guess, I will know it too and you know what, he will know that I am the right one. No questions. No fear. No hesitation.
In the meantime, tell me your thoughts.
P.s. I am going to read Steve Harvey's new book and comment about it on Sam and the City really soon. And, btw, Steve Harvey was on Oprah today and he was saying that a man can't be who you want him to be, if he isn't who he wants to be or where he wants to be, amen! Ladies, remember that (and gents too)! I am definitely going to read that book!