Sam @CUSP Conference 2015

Monday, April 13, 2009

Sam and the City: Cougar (Mrrrrrreeeeeeooooow!)

I don't think I am old enough to call myself a cougar, but does the act of cougaring have age stipulations? I don't think it does. I think it just means women who date or enjoy dating younger men. So, I guess I can be called an occasional cougar. Occasional and thinking about changing my perspective. It's all about perspective.

Anyway, I like younger men because they are, or I thought they were, free beings. I thought they were baggage free and just wanted to have fun, get to know people and live life. Unlike, older guys who tend to have lots of baggage and plenty of misconceptions, misunderstandings and judgments about women. I could go on...But, I won't. Let's get back to the subject of cougaring. I don't really have the energy or focus to put into anything serious and I thought a younger guy would be right there with me. But, what I am learning is this...Drum roll please...You can't categorize, stereotype or group people based on age or any other demographic. How crazy is that?!!! LOL. Everything in life should be based on the individual because, from what I've found, there are some young guys with baggage too and who want to get serious and get serious fast. For instance, I hung out a couple of times, literally two times, with a guys who is about five years younger than me and I thought to myself, "Let's go bowling with a group where I can be stress free (and safe-he could be crazy, right? Ya never know these days) and have my friends all see him and just have fun and bowl and act silly." Then maybe the next time we can see a movie and just chillax and then I can go home. Simple. Easy. Fun. No stress. It's all about good times and being young and having a nice fun time. Right?...No! The first day dude was asking me if I was interested in dating. Huh? Why? We just met! Just bowl! You're killing my fun!!! Why can't you just try to be my friend first and get to know me and then maybe think about dating me and vice versa. He asked me if I was interested in dating and kept trying to isolate me and boo me up in the corner and hold my hand. Dude! We are at a bowling alley! Drink beer, bowl, laugh, high-five people when it's their turn! Relax! What are you doing?!!! The next time I saw him, date number two, that's when the baggage reveal happened. He dated a woman 11 years older than him with three kids AND they lived together. They just broke up a month ago. Baggage! Apparently, the queen cougar had gotten to him and you could tell when you looked at him when he was telling the story that he was infected. I mean, affected. He isn't free. He doesn't just want to have fun. He's a committer. Boooooooo!!!! No fun! If I wanted baggage and commitment I would hang out with an older dude, I thought.

I want to hang out with someone like-minded and who shares the same perspective that I have right now and I suppose it doesn't matter what age you are just where you are in your life and in your head and heart. There is no age. There's just people.

xoxo

Sam

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

grow up. do you know anything about men. If you have a male friend who has some scruples(morals) ask him what a man really wants. get real

mom said...

what's all this dating about. find some good associates, male and female. you might find a nice mate

Anonymous said...

That first comment is hilarious! Grow up?...Really? I have no idea what you are talking about.Did you read the article?...BTW, you sound very angry. Cheer up;)

xoxo
Sam

Anonymous said...

You're too young to be a cougar.

- KJH